I yelled at my dad. Fortunately, I could understand what was going on.

I yelled at my dad Dad, you're out of control. Even if he yells to from afar to get my attention, it still bothers me. My dad got home and he throws his finger into my chest and screams “I EXPECT YOU AT THE OFFICE TOMORROW MORNING OR YOU’RE OUT OF THIS HOUSE!” My dad (m48) got unnecessary ugly with me (f18) I’m my opinion Here’s what happened: My younger siblings and I and are father watch wrestling well last Monday we didn’t get to watch it well my little sister came in my room and asked do you wanna watch raw I said sure because tomorrow is Friday so smack down is on and I just don’t want to watch that much wrestling in Instead of trying to determine whether it is right or wrong for your dad to yell try just acknowledging that it sucks to get yelled at, understand that sometimes humans yell at each other, and try to be empathic towards the person doing the yelling. He shouted something that he won't let her stay. Describe your response. My grandfather passed away today so some family members came I got yelled at pretty frequently throughout my childhood for fairly small stuff. Whilst trying to get my 1yr old to sleep in the pram, I was looking for a washing machine to replace our broken one at the same time. But it really isn't. Earlier this night I was asked to take her out by my dad and so I did but she’s too scared to do anything at night so we just went back inside and when I took her of her leash she peed. Get Your Phone Back when Your Parents Take it Away. I can tell with experience that my friends and I, who have had the similar experiences at their homes, tend to lie to get out of trouble, and form weaker relationships with their parents. This morning I yelled at my 4 year old son louder than I ever have before. I yelled at my baby for the first time last night because she was throwing a tantrum and I was losing my cool. Ironically, even though so many children and families in my counseling practice were getting better, I was stuck in my own yelling trap—until I She pocketed my phone and I just snapped. He immediately started crying Well, I guess 15 years of my mom living my dads dream was too much because she decided to cheat with an 21 year old host from the restaurant and my dad, and her got a divorce. My dad being a wholesale meat distributor and always the one that bbq’s. Ok so I keep finding myself trying at my parents all the time. How much do you want to bet he'd have yelled at you for letting I tried to calm myself down by deep breathing, but while doing so I placed my hand on my head, which just made my dad yell some more. He did it for her because she went hysterical with the idea of a "dirty" tree in the house. Dad, you're yelling/ screaming. Ever. I don’t forgive my mom for trying to make me feel like a horrible child for actually liking my dad and OP shouldn’t feel obligated to hate his dad because his mom is mad at him. “I love you son. I taught him that My dad would freak out if we spilled a drink too. Stay calm and lead by calm example. He got quiet. I had much work before and I was too overreacting. He yelled at me because I texted my mom instead of him about something about surgery. I shouted as much as I could. You know your mom. As soon as I yelled at her, I started petting her. For the first time in my life, I’ve raised my voice like this and was violent. I hate making him feel bad. When my dad starts yelling he swears a lot. He will direct every bit of anger at me calling "fucking retarded, fucking blind" or a "fucking moron" I hate having to tiptoe around him to avoid making him mad. my dad hands it to me, and i’m happy cus now i have my pride flag. His reaction made me feel awful, Not fear of getting whacked by a belt, but fear that yes, daddy might actually follow through and make me clean my room or make me leave the house on time. The behavior you described is why I no longer go home and am resigned to not seeing my dad ever again. Does feelings get hurt, yeah, just like yours does (or did) when you yelled. My daughter had somehow bought a year’s discord nitro I'm recovering from surgery. My mom has passed away but she did everything for him. Your situation is similar to mine. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. i (22 F) yelled at my dad (46 M) last week. I didn’t even bother answering my dad’s phone calls and text messages. After I matured a bit I just had no reason to yell at him. I (30 female) was having a discussion with my dad (62 male) let’s call him Jack, when I yelled at him. He yelled at me through the door and pounded on it when I didn't reply. All I remember is that my mom would apologize if she was wrong and as an adult it's a character trait I look for in a relationship. I would bet that his dad at least acted like this too. 3. I hate letting how my dad treated me come out in me to him. My mother was also in the car and saw what I was doing, so she told him I was doing what I'm SUPPOSED to do. Why? I don’t know, it’s what I usually do every summer. I kept saying no and he repeatedly kept putting it in my plate. im old enough to know what im doing. While I yelled, I thought, “We aren’t getting anywhere. I yelled at him. Dad, when you yell, it upsets me. We are super close. I walk across the street to the old retired couple and ask to borrow their phone. and i yelled at him and insulted him My late dad sometimes yelled at me when I pushed the limit or when I don’t listen to him when he tells me important things in adult life. That was fine, until my dad came down stairs and decided to start cleaning the kitchen. 21 votes, 20 comments. But I’ve yelled at my toddler. while driving me home, my mom started listing off things she wanted done when i got home and i just started to have a meltdown. Why I am posting- my mother is my father's main caregiver. I went to visit him at the beginning of the summer. n ik i can fix it n he should know that too, so i dont think theres a point in him getting mad. I validate my child’s feeling, but hold the boundary that I have set. I yelled at my dad and sister while extended family were visiting. I yelled at him to lay down, loudly, and it’s not something he is used to hearing, so he recoiled. My mom doesn't have the finances to afford a driving instructor and my dad refused to get one, so I had no choice (I do have money, but I am saving that for school expenses). After my parents were divorced, he spent a couple years being a pretty crappy father- but he got things back together eventually. When you grab me and shove me, I'm frightened and intimidated. My childhood certainly wasn't the worst one, but it was pretty rough either way. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Just due to the fact i yelled at my own father over something silly like bread, and i got irrational and so worked up for something that doesnt matter in the long run. My name is Misty. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I'm very conflicted because, on one hand, he is my father, he's probably stressed about our financial situation and he probably just wants what's best for me but, on the In that moment, anger and hurt took over and I confronted my dad in front of everyone. Being yelled at has significant effects on both the body and the brain. some background on my dad, he’s a stereotypical dead-beat dad. I'm 33 years old, Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Then he started taking trash about my mom and that’s when I snapped I started crying and breaking down and he started complaining that I was too soft. Sort by: Best Here's my view, and it's more complex than your dad is an asshole. My dad is an alcoholic and he’s had a My dad will never admit to being wrong so you hit the nail on the head about him spinning it in a negative direction. Not only in game but also when we talk at work. My aunt was there and tried to mediate. My dad also left for many years and I forgive him. For some unknown reason, he cannot comprehend that yelling at someone while doing something will make them perform worse. And it always made me cry. Thankfully for Christmas I got to go see my dad and take about a week and a half break. I'm an adult now, but some of the occasions happened as a teen. My husband also does the dishes at the end. He was saying I need to man up and stop crying. I know I'm a good Dad but in that moment I felt like a monster. But afterward, I sit and talk with my son and say “I’m sorry I yelled. She'd apologize pretty quickly too. I would call my mom on my drive home from work and talk with her about my day. ” Yet in my completely drained 7:45 pm Tuesday state of mind, I couldn’t stop the loop. He yelled back that he does have empathy, I said if he did then I wouldn Growing up in India, my dad constantly yelled at me for every single mistake. Could you imagine if I got my son a 50,000 set of ANYTHING. I apologized to him, I gave him a hug and a kiss, and told him I love Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. He ignores me and brings it over to my dad (his name was on the package). I had time to love Dad a lot before he died, and I know that where he is now, there isn He yelled at me to go inside and give my mom my phone, headphones, and "anything that might bring you joy. When my dad yells at me I just start crying. On the way she was screaming at me. Here's what he yelled at my face: "You are my only daughter and i have a right on you. So we got a dog recently and I have been walking her. If he used to get beat up on top of it, then maybe he thinks he's doing a good job by just yelling. We yelled at each other for a bit. when my dad’s car broke down while trying to pick me up and my mom had to get us, i was over it. I consider it my temper tantrum, and sometimes my eldest (7), says, "Mommy, you seem like you need a break and should go to the calm down area". I took the piece of bread and slammed it on the table and yelled I said no. Death threats were common. Now my mom’s mad at me and I’m sure my dad is even more angry. This is the reason he yells *It makes him look like the child, not the adult. He is now in failing health and it has been hard caring for him. Failed the written twice and worked hard to study to pass on the 3rd try. My dad and mom would hit us and yell at us calling us stupid and worthless. My oldest is easy going and generally listens, but will also question me with a voice of reason if needed. i can hit you whenever i want because i was the one who raised you since you were a baby and you owe me a lot about that. So that is the fucking story of how today was another day in which I was again everyone’s punching bag and how my dad yelled at me for no reason Share Add a Comment. My dad is awful at following this rule. Please don’t beat yourself up. My toddler wouldn’t stop screaming while I was on the phone and I just snapped and yelled for her to shut up. Just standing there getting yelled at and having no control over my body. Theyve been doing it for as long as I remember - one of my earliest memories is her saying "when you're 18 im divorcing your dad". I like my dad and he was good to me growing up. My parents yelled over homework or refused to help because it was my homework. I yelled. Yelled at my uncle in his own house because he was fighting with my dad on the day my grandfather died My uncle lives with his parents (my grandparents) and his wife & daughter. It also kind of sent me spiralling to on the verge of a panic attack. Additionally, my uncle has a disc in his neck and my husband was working. I was never hit, and I remember my mom saying to my dad how it makes no sense to hit a child and make them afraid of you, but I was definitely scared of my mom growing up. Maybe a nice dinner that I'd cook. Hi I'm the one who said my dad yelled at me of rising the word "cis" and I'm back with more bad stuff. It went on for hours. Spilling drinks happens. I was starving but I didn't want to go downstairs in case they noticed me. It’s the feeling that I did wrong, and that I’m useless and a fuck up that slowly grows darkness over me. He cried, my husband came in to see what happened. He also always has a problem with my music taste. Growing up, I was constantly yelled and screamed at by my parents for every little thing I did wrong. My dad was napping at the time and I was hiding in my room because being with either one of my parents makes me feel like I’m actually suffocating. I would hit my limit sometimes after coming home from working to keep him fed, healthy and alive and safe to see my dining table, washer/dryer, doorway destroyed AND have to hear how I NTA I have occasionally yelled at my dad. I was never like this in the past, it took years of being end on the receiving end of abuse before I yelled or snapped back, but I feel like I have a much shorter fuse now and far less tolerance for BS all around. After he left I just went to my room and started crying cause I felt really stupid and I just wanted to cry. I fucking hate myself. So, me, 19F and my dad don't always see eye to eye. I wasn't just lollygagging around. During an episode Cut that out, right now. None of us know how to turn on the grill. His Dad leaves and goes to the grocery store to get stuff for dinner and the food gets here a little before his Deal With a Terrible Dad. My dad yelled at me . There was one time that he screamed at me in public for forgetting to bring a coin with me to the swimming pool for the lockers, I was 6 years old. and it did relieve Anyway, my father stomped down the stairs and started yelling at my mother for not keeping the puppy quiet enough. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I yelled at my dad for giving me an easy way through school and him telling everyone I was special needs 2) I broke his heart and he was just trying to help me He does one thing and she explodes, moaning and saying how useless he is. Dad knows I've always been a good kid, so he knows that if I yell at him, it's because I have been brought to a point that I am incapable of being a "good daughter", so he'll drop the subject and ruminate, trying to figure out if he was wrong. ( I haven’t ate since 1:30. It sounds like just as you were abused by Your dad was being irrational and, of all things, aggressive towards you for not magically making the dog dry without a towel. My mom never yelled at me. Big Little Feelings on Instagram has helped me a lot with what specifically to say and how to respond in certain situations. My dad was just wary of other men and this was early AITA I yelled at my girlfriend because she told her family about my alcoholic dad and now she’s mad at me . . You are so strong for stand up to him like that. Fortunately, I could understand what was going on. I ended up completely grey rocking him, and it’s the only thing that stopped it. It doesn’t happen often. I'm 15 now and I STILL crash down on my knees in tears when someone yells at me. Neither can I. He Because he was being uncooperative I decided to go downstairs and lie on the couch. My parents did not allow that shit. but then my stepdad tells me to not put it in my window and mutters something about “showing it off to the world”, and he said it angrily. It was very effective too. My dad has never been able to take care of himself. I was groggy and yelled at him for waking me up so early, My dad leaves around 7am for work, my job doesn't start until 10, so usually I sleep until And other reasons too. I stormed out and haven't spoken to him since. But my mom was doing laundry and asks for my help but I decide I wanted to do laundry too and my dad decided to say "no you just want to sabotage your mom doing laundry and not help out" so I yelled at him and told him I want him dead and that I'm going to kill him all white pushing a laundry cart into him. My dad is 78 years old, but I am only 23 years old. He never resorted to anything seriously physical most of the time just a lot of yelling. So it won’t support an Apple TV or other source device. First day was done in the back of my high school parking lot. They never fought about me. AITA for not defending my dad and agreeing with my sister that my dad’s comments were unhelpful? I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. It is very easy to say that others are "bad parents" but you aren't in their shoes. This was ridiculous because my parents wouldn’t pay for me to have a cell phone. After she died, it was one or two small gifts to my dad. ” I stopped engaging. My mum is dying and the hospital just called to say I should come. ) I get yelled at and told eating at this time is ridiculous. I yelled today out of frustration directed at my husband and the boys bc they kept arguing OVER EVERYTHING!! It got their attention then we spoke about why everyone was crabby. The way I would stop myself from yelling at my parents if they were yelling at me, is to try and view the situation from their point of view. I asked if i can redo my room and she starts getting mad at me. My mom burst into tears and I saw red. I love my mum, but she has not given me a good role model. This morning he woke me up, frantic on his way out the door, asking if I'd seen his lunch anywhere. I constantly feel the need to put on a good face, My dad got mad at me and maybe I went overboard, I was very upset for my brother, I screamed at my dad that this is exactly why my brother and I never confide in him about anything important and we go to our mom (they're divorced) instead since my mom actually has empathy. I told my mom what happened and now she’s panicking. In addition, there are some particular elements of being yelled at that make it so harmful. I only asked a question and she says that I'm ungrateful for asking because we're moving. "We're moving and my parents are giving me the ugliest room ever. He’d chosen to be this way and he’d rather stay as I was wearing shorts underneath and when my dad saw that, he got super angry and nearly swore and screamed at me to change(he probably thought I was being disrespectful but I only go to my home country for vacation and didn't know you could not wear shorts underneath/did not mean to show I don't care but i couldn't explain myself) and asked if I'm stupid or something. My parents usually hit my dog, which I would never do. Maybe because I was never actually involved. my dad wanted to take me driving but i just assumed that it was around town like i was already kind of comfortable with. My dad wasn't and isn't creepy. " He literally yelled back, "IT'S A F*CKING DISASTER!" I burst out 9,978 likes, 33 comments - realdadofgenius on October 11, 2024: "I’ve gotten yelled at for baseball bats, cleats, sports training sessions . I think this has made me overall pretty insecure about my personality. I decided to move onto other chores around the house, and did everything from gardening to cleaning the house. He yelled at me one too many times and I came to the realization he would never get better. Probably because I was doing a damn good job at fawning. My oldest has not been yelled at nearly as much as my middle child with ADHD. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I yelled at my grandma for telling my dad that I'm going to get married and maybe I shouldn't have because I was taking my issues with my dad out on her and I shouldn't Years ago, I yelled way too often at my kids. I just kept saying "Daddy is sorry, I shouldn't have yelled at you, I love you" She gave me a big ol kiss and said it's okay. You could say that is perfect. He got so mad and yelled all kinds of things. I chuckled and said, "it's just water. He would scold, “You better start remembering this shit!! I go my way to help you prepare for adult like and your ass doesn’t listen!! I was so calm in my responses despite being triggered but I kept setting her back off because in that state she is not calmable. I have such a hard time controlling my emotions, I keep everything in until it boils over and I lose my absolute shit on someone I love. He’d also end up blaming me for starting the arguments (yelling) when he was “just talking. (Just warming up chicken in the microwave. My mom yelled at me and got very upset at me at times when I was very young. I cry now (Dad passed away recently), thinking of Dad's hurt look after I'd lose my temper. It would be like walking on glass, you never knew when you'd make him mad. My sister got yelled at by him more than I did, but she, in She tried her best not to yell at us but when she did, she'd go beet red and it was scary. I haven’t seen my dad since I was 17, I’m in my mid thirties now. When she was away from her phone (going upstairs or got sidetracked) at the time I normally call, my dad would answer. Meh, i take offense at "child" 🤣 My dad, my brother, and my all cleaned up/ helped clean house when they were children. So that's probably why she got so scared. Plastic plate, but macaroni spilled all over the floor. My dad is like this. Wait until they are done talking (unless you are getting too angry; then leave immediately). So, when my dad had us kids, he luckily didn't pass down the physical abuse, but unfortunately passed down the yelling/emotional abuse. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I feel like I may be the AH because I yelled at my dad instead of trying harder to get him to understand my feelings We knew she didn't like to be yelled at so we told her teacher not too, it was general ed. It’s a house rule that all chores are done by 9:30 so that people have the chance to unwind and settle at the end of the night. About an hour or two ago, my dad came in my room to remind me, but I backtalked him. She would scream at and beat my dad and his siblings. It's really funny that I feel so accomplished about not crying, but that's always been something I hated. Needless to say, he never uses the middle lane - even when he's supposed to because traffic is way too heavy not to. As I was eating it, my mom came into the kitchen and I so storytime, i’ve been trying to learn how to drive so i can get my license, so i’ve had my aunt take me driving in parking lots and around my small town. I was so sure I was getting Next thing I know, my dad is yelling at me. Your dad acts like an asshole and may be an asshole and has rage/anger management issues. I really look up to my dad and consider him one of my role models. he went to jail multiple times and got his constitutional rights taken I had to stop myself from yelling at him more. Just a quick suggestion for the Heat/AC situation: my mom has some dementia and wet macular degeneration in both eyes, so she's legally blind. I remember one time I was running around with a friend and we were screaming, and my dad came out and told us we couldn't scream like that unless we were hurt. it all went to his shitty bmw. My cousins and I (all genders) from 2 to 12 all cleaned up and did chores at my grandmother's house on weekends. And my dad has been amazing the whole time. I have never had the courage to hit him back, something I’ll always wonder about. He will yell at me if I cant find something that he misplaced. Today my dad yelled at my mom again. 2. okay so im an 18 year old female and i live with my mom,dad and grandma. My dad was in the military for all of my early childhood and was a bit of a drinker. I felt guilty for giving them a silent treatment because my mood was ruined. How do I avoid getting emotional when i’m being yelled at? also, is there anyway I can make him feel bad and leave me alone? Edit: There seems to be some confusion in the comment section so I want to clear some I (13m) was supposed to do the dishes after dinner today, but I forgot. My dad and I are not close as I said, but literally everything he did provided for our family, I didnt go without on anything and If i really needed to talk about I yelled at my dad for waking me up and it was probably rude. My dad is an asshole and him teaching me how to drive is making him a worse one. Usually nothing for me. My first ever hyperventilating panic attack was when I came home for college for a weekend and she legit YELLED at me and my brother. My brother has always been the apple of his eye for as far as I can remember. I know it's my dad, because I only make I yelled at my dad for making the comment which is why I might be the asshole. My dad would get physical when my mom fought back. Just today, my dog jumped up on the counter and tried to eat something. I e also yelled out, in reflex, when he pinches me (on accident) and that scares him as well. I walked out of the room so that I could clear my head. I've been ignoring his calls and today he sent a long text apologizing and asked how he could make it up to me. She flinched and I quickly picked her up and cuddled her and told her I’m so sorry, over and over again. The trauma response to being yelled at includes increased activity in the amygdala (the emotional response part of our brains), increased levels of the Have you ever talked with your father about your feelings towards your mother? Maybe this is something he would be receptive to. My dad used to take me into the women's when he had to (when my mom wasn't around to do it, which wasn't very often) and my Dad would walk in and be like sorry ladies, my daughter needs to use the stall and he'd go in with me either outside the stall or inside. I felt nothing and no tears or gasping sobs came out. I’m not a yeller, I’ve never once raised my voice to my husband, I never felt the need to yell at my baby. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. My dad is an engineer but he screamed at me and belittled me if I got it wrong from the beginning. My dad was really taken aback and apologized but I walked out. After several minutes of us going back and forth my mom walked into my room and told me to hang up. Just the other day, I was scolded at for wearing sneakers at work. " I yelled at my dad today too. I felt really bad and my mom came home and I thought maybe she could be more helpful but she just agreed with my dad. I can’t understand how he could talk to his son this way, over the most pointless things. Until he can't take it anymore and EXPLODES. But in my reality, it won't be, but I work on it. How to. I still don’t understand it. It’s difficult because he says such obvious untrue things it makes me feel insane sometimes. A few minutes pass and he comes into apologize and tell me Me and my friends used to play games every night but there are times that i get yelled at by my friend for playing bad at the game (she's not really mad). My dad is just like OPs, he would push and push and act more and more ridiculous and literally break my house “fixing” things that weren’t broken, all the while being rude as hell about it all. So pretty much title, I was talking about joining a club at my school with my dad and he asked what type of club it was I said it was for lgbtq+ and he freaked out saying "the entire lgbtq+ is bad because it is a horrible political group that supports pedophiles and child molesters" and So Reddit, am i the asshole for being upset at my dad for kicking me out after I yelled at him when I believed he was being rude about my sisters SA comments sorted by Best Top New Controversial Q&A Add a Comment. My dad gets mad at me for eating. I also wonder how my dad felt. My Why do I cry when my parents yell at me? Answering “Why do I cry when my parents yell at me?” is certainly not an easy task and there is not a single explanation or answer. (My dad was physically abusive and very authoritarian and my mom was incredibly manipulative/would make up stories or bad behavior we never did so we’d get in trouble as kids) and the last thing I’d ever want is for my kids to have to recover from their childhoods like I i hate that my dad gets mad over my grades, yelling doesnt fix anything, it doesnt make me want to do better, i dont need his anger to understand that i need to fix my grades, i can do that myself. Her dad stepped away already because he was losing his cool. My dad saw this and he just got mad I was crying. This is not a every day thing by any means! But when I've done it, it makes me feel so angry at myself, I might as well be the worse mom in the world. Empty_Jellyfish_1995 I feel the same way. It hurts my feelings a lot because I’m trying my hardest. Then my oldest (almost 4, who had been pushing buttons for the last like 15 minutes already), stopped while clearing his, went from holding flat with two hands, and SOMEHOW ended up also dropping his plate. After that she comforted me as I cried, and I avoided my dad like zero contact. My great comfort is that Dad forgave me and loved me, and that God forgave me. I would shut down and become numb almost as a response and I couldn’t look at my dad which would make him more mad. But it is very sad really, he never learned how to simply talk to get his message across. I do still sometimes lose my temper and yell, I’m human. I know his dad was abusive, and little does he realize he is cuttin it close to becoming his own She still screams about my dad and it’s been 35 years. I cried at my desk twice. I am 30, I yelled at my dad a few times when I was around 14-16. My relationship with my dad hangs on a thread. There's no better way to show your parents that you care than to keep your temper in check and work out your If your parents are yelling at you, don't yell back. Don't know why she forgot you would be getting off now. I miss my dad so much BUT he has horrible anger issues and I will never be the same as an adult hearing the things he said to me. Now I feel that somehow affects my response from people yelling. My dad passed a few years ago and that anger only got worse, I wish he would have spent more time in a peaceful way, I would have been around him more. About how she can’t believe I’m humiliating her like this (explaining what was happening to the boys, and making her message her dealer/friend that they would not be hanging out or using together anymore) My dad hasn't been yelling at my mom. I feel like I’ve failed by letting my bad day boil over and onto my son. c this might make me the Asshole because it upset my dad and made the situation maybe worse, I have bad adhd and I’m struggling with my online classes and my grades are dropping. I was yelled at as a child and I'm a well adjusted adult. I took over and she was so upset (she has a little bit of a speech delay so when she can’t express her emotions she can get frustrated, she’s 20mo) but she has never thrown a tantrum like she was last night. She feels things so much more than my oldest. today, for so many reasons, was awful. Took my mom and got out. when my mom was married to him, he did a lot of drugs and abused us. That same day we moved in, my sister saw my dad putting together a new table, and so later on she grabbed a screw driver and stabbed it a few good times. I have always been respectful. My dad yelled at me every day, rarely for any good reason. She would always, always apologize if she lost her cool. Asshole To begin I’ll say I have really bad depression and my dad is one of my biggest insecurities. We got into an argument and he threatened to ground me if I talked to him like that again. See my profile for details. I assumed my boyfriend had told his Dad since I had also gotten lunch for his brother. I yelled her name, but mostly in surprise, and said "child! Are you asking for more candy? (She shook her head) dad, did she just ask for more candy? (He said yes) child, your mom already said no more tonight why are you trying to go to your dad now (mom was oblivious until I said anything)" of course she bursts into tears and runs away. We called a truce and started over. When parents yell, you may feel anxious and it can be scary, intimidating, or just annoying. Nothing. My youngest (almost 2) dropped her plate by accident when clearing it. " Now, I'm a very emotional person, so I cry easily, especially when getting yelled at. I yelled at her, but I immediately felt bad because she got scared. we go driving and he’s just telling me where to go and as soon as i realize that we’re going farther than i Answer (1 of 16): My dad probably had a really bad upbringing. im not even angry or sad abt the grade n i dont rlly care abt it My mom threw things when we yelled back. My dad was the same to me and my sisters and still is sometimes. I yelled at my 19mo this morning. The first day started out bad but ended on the concept that I needed more practice. All of my life, getting yelled at has absolutely been the trigger to bring me to such a low. All kidding aside, I feel your frustration and do empathize. One time, we were in his truck and he kept yelling and yelling and I was crying and crying until something snapped inside and I started laughing uncontrollably and that made him angrier and he yelled at me to stop laughing. In this guide, we will discuss “Why does my dad yell at me when I cry” and what you could do to tackle this situation. He tried to backtrack but the damage was done. I don't let my kid watch hours of TV, but those who do aren't bad parents either. Finally I went down to eat some peanut butter. Things have been awful ever since. Its a wonder how i'm so stable in conflict. My past self thanks you! Parenting is hard. The best thing to remember is not if you deserve being yelled at or if you keep doing things to make them angry, but learning how to deal with the situation. But my dad yelled a bit, but mostly it was my parents yelling at each other rather than me or my sister. Eventually she said something that really upset me and I started crying and left the restaurant and actually called my therapist because I just couldn’t deal. Get Your Mom to Forgive You After You Do "I have really started yelling at my I’m actively recovering from my childhood and in therapy to do so. He constantly says I’m not gonna graduate. My sister kept Instead of resorting to yelling at your parents, try to take a step back and resolve issues in a calm manner. Let's just say this dad isn't at all fit to be in civilized company. I yelled and told him I'm leaving. Hey this title is exactly what it seems to be. Looking back there are some things that I regret saying but I feel justified in calling out my dad’s behavior. My brothers started defending him but to my dad's credit he did stop them. I got to leave him somewhere safe, and that he loves, and go see friends and just be an adult and have funlol. My dad decided to teach me how to drive, but he made me very uncomfortable. All I remember from this situation is that my dad said "this is why you lose all of your friends every time you make one". Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. I hate the way she treats my dad, and yet I find myself acting very similarly with My dad (M53) is giving me (F19) a lot of anxiety and I don't know what to do, he gets angry about stupid things, he never yells at me, but he yells at my mom when he is annoyed by anything. As a result, I started to yell at my dog even though it was a small mistake. Tonight I got off work (I’m 20 still living with parents) worked out and then decided to make my meal at 11:00. Please know it is not you and hope his anger stops. i was sobbing and hitting my head against the headrest and she started getting mad? i still don’t know what was going One time, my dad yelled at me for twenty minutes for my inconsistencies in writing the digit. THE HYPOCRISY PEOPLE. I have a great relationship with him now. My dad never got angry. So I yelled at him for making her cry. So I walked inside as I started to cry and immediately grabbed my phone and handed it to my mom, who was in the living room. Reply reply My sister finally convinced me and we all ended up at her place, he was here, the same sh*tty drunk old man that he was six years ago, I was quiet, I was more here for my sister because despite everything, she didn’t really argue with my dad other than arguing about me. "HI honey! You mom is (doing what she was doing). When I was a kid my dad yelled at me quite a bit. I recently moved back in with my parents to help my mother care for my father who has dementia. I rang the doorbell and my step mom yelled for me to call my dad through the front door. I yelled at her saying stuff like “Why are you even a teacher here if you don’t let your students learn” and “you can’t go through my damn phone” My dad works in construction and always breaks his phone, and at He was insulting my dad but I didn’t want to defend a party in particular, Now at this point after I yelled my uncle a second time to stop the fight he called me “UNEDUCATED”. We'd already been arguing but it was in a different room and I'm pretty sure I was so loud that everyone in the house heard everything I said and that's why I think I might be an asshole. He would yell at me constantly for very minor things. All while my daughters equestrian dreams have no monetary limits. He ALWAYS takes his frustrations out on his family, and I hate it. I wouldn't know, because HE DOES NOT COMMUNICATE. It’s the only time I see him all year. 💯 I never yelled at my baby because babies don’t have any idea what yelling means, and they’re helplessness and innocence overshadowed any amount of overwhelm I may have felt. Once as a teenager I spilled some water on the carpet and he started freaking out. My dad's other favourite thing was slamming doors. No tree, no decorations. Dad, threatening to poison the cat is bullying and creepy. My dad yelled at me for crying several times. But think as you like. Get Your Mom to Forgive You After You Do Something Stupid. My husband entered to tag me out and our 🙋‍♂️ A Dad here, I also yelled and got very upset with my nearly 4yr old. Sadly I don't get this When I was younger, I didn't have a very good relationship with my Dad. And that's when I lost it I just screamed at him My dad came up, told in a calm manner that he understood, how my mom gets and my emotions, but that I really looked insane and I should’ve learned to control my emotions. He is a kindly old man and extremely patient and yelling at him would just make me feel like an ass. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: i might be the asshole because my dad supports me, spends money on me, and cooks for me. we all have some issues with our dad’s but this was over the top for me. I am not proud. So now for the back story, we were discussing parenting and how he doesn’t agree with the way my husband (31 male) and I are choosing to gentle parent our children (3 and 1). Hey guys, so when I was younger(if I'm being honest) my dad had some anger issues. I call my dad and he immediately starts his prepared speech. Ask him to change. I yelled at my Dad several times, losing my temper, and the dear man always forgave me. Lol. He would make me do drills on drills on drills far For me failure isn't allowed, even the smallest mistake will get me yelled at. My heart broke. As soon as I got my mistake I changed My dad would go out on the back deck and put up a tree with lights on it. I’m constantly contacting the teachers for help and they’re helping me, but my dad is always yelling at me for my grades. Again this was lunch, none of us had eaten yet that day. It’s 10pm and I’m alone at home. My dad yelled at me the other day in a way no man has yelled at me before. One time he even said he didn’t care about how I felt and that he didn’t want to hear what I feel ever again. My mother is 53 years old. What does she do? Like the second week just yells at her constantly my daughter just didn't want to go to school, avoided her at all cost and at the conference we were like well yeah you yelled shame on you, we told you not too but you did anyways lol. he never spent a dime on me. He was abusive that entire time and I stood up to him by putting myself in between him and my siblings or yelling at him. Some of the elements may include: Why you are being yelled at. Whether or not you have done something to upset them, it is important to listen to what your parent is saying, stay calm enough In this guide, we will discuss “Why does my dad yell at me when I cry” and what you could do to tackle this situation. I'm consumed with guilt after I've raised my voice and yelled or scolded my 89 year old mother for doing exactly what you mentioned. I just stood there taking it as always until he eventually stopped. The volume of his voice. As a result when i get a bit agitated with my wife it can quickly become an argument which I feel like I should have defended my dad somewhat during the conversation (my conscience gnaws at me) but at the same time I do think what he said was really tone-deaf and stupid. During high school, I’d be listening to music when my dad would start raising his voice at my mom, and I'd put on headphones and try to drown him out. Dad, you grabbed my arm and pushed me. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I yelled at my dad and made him cry after he fought with my brother. Dealing with this so early in my life is a real struggle for me. I understand because I come from a family where you can’t talk back to your elders. He got onto me, and I yelled at him. I don't wanna blame anyone for my behavior. I cannot hold back my tears when he starts yelling at me for some bull shit reason. It won't be the last time or maybe it will (for you and so many others). I feel kind of shitty because my dad was crying a little and I've never seen him cry before. I yelled at my dad for the first time yesterday :( It’s an unimportant thing in the big picture, but my parents have this 46” tv and the three HDMI ports died years ago (like before covid) during a power surge. This continued on into my teenhood. And a PayPal transaction lit up on my phone for $99. He’s never apologized. But I was driving my wife to the rehabilitation center we decided on. I yelled at him that it was unfair to say he wished we weren't born just so he could be gay sooner. I don't personally yell at my child for small things because being small is hard, but no one is perfect. I just stood there dumbfounded, saying I couldn't possibly know which beer he meant. I felt my patience leave my body. She is headstrong and does not listen to the sound of my voice or reason. Deal With Your Parents Fighting. I listen to rap/hip-hop primarily and he HATES it, and he'll always make comments and degrade it. I am now absolutely terrified of any male talking in a raised voice/shouting, even if it's in a positive way, like celebrating the football. putting it in the window is not something i’d do, cuz i'm When my sister and I were really little, we moved into a new house and my dad had just bought all brand new furniture. He never bothered learning what I want to do or what degree I got but yet, he still loves to tell me that my career choices are wrong. I’m taking 2nd grade. #horsedad #horselife #marriedlifebelike Deal With a Terrible Dad. My dad keeps quiet and doesn't say anything (but in the meantime continues doing those things that my mom hates). ncxlzl heq jaw eqsb twoyb admeda oymipeb mhnr btp mkayj