Aita for telling my sister that her infertility is not my problem. She did not fight to get him back.

Aita for telling my sister that her infertility is not my problem You are not her dead sister. Focus on your little miracle coming! And you have the right to feel however you do and if you are not “excited enough” that is a her problem not a you problem. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My sister tried to play dumb but I told her I heard their entire conversation about my ex wife and her pregnancy news. A. I told her no. I used to feel really bad for her and also a bit guilty as I I told my roommate that her anorexia wasn’t my problem and that might be the reason why I’m the asshole. My sister is 35f an 1. Last week was the gender reveal party where my Bea broke down crying after cutting the cake and seeing it was pink inside. And you are not going to tell me I made you look bad when your children are on the receiving end of my love AND generosity. AITA For telling my adopted sister to go back to her true family? Asshole Throwaway because my parents use reddit and know my reddit account. Reply reply SuperLoris You are her sister not her incubator. My mother comforted me and told my sister she is way out of line with the name. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my ex's daughter that I am not her aunt or her other mom after spending some time trying to avoid that conversation and trying to make my ex have it. Get out. You are not saving her. I actually ended up with six children. Her head knew she was not at fault, but she was saying that not being able to give her husband "the gift of children", which is seen to most people as a wifely duty made her feel broken and not whole. So I called the police, showed them the video, filed a So I looked her straight in the eye and told her I don’t give a flying fuck she’s infertile that’s her problem not mine than I told her husband he probably can’t have kids because he’s a little bitch that can’t afford IVF I slammed the door in their face than my shocked husband told me he’d put the kids to bed and drink some wine My boyfriend called me a “f-cking a-hole” and left the house. 2 days ago my brother told me he has an appointment to meet with his Doc to discuss the reversal so him and SIL can try for a baby The problem was that last week my son came to talk to me about the wedding invitation that had not arrived for him, but for other family members. " Hmm well yes I knocked her up but it's HER pregnancy. Well, she asked me last week if she could come "steal the baby away" for some snuggles. My niece has now been officially introduced to a few members of her paternal size and they all love her. if she wants her own children, she needs to surrogate with non family. My sister has gone through losing a baby and while im not a violent person Also, if that is all he knows about her life, it sounds like she is not telling him much. My aunt told her that my parents were out of town and she should go to their house. It has caused many serious, lifelong medical issues for me. I messaged my sister raising this issue and she replied that she didn't want any underage people at her wedding because there would be alcohol. Don't forget she is 15. But in a way of: Im sorry Im late, I was mourning. "AITA for asking my SIL to pay her share of the bill when I used a gift card to cover most of the meal?" Spiritual-Witness-86 writes: I (26F) and my partner (27F) planned a birthday dinner for her father (FIL) at a steakhouse. Miranda's life is NOT all rainbows and lollipops. I'm 17f, my sister Kasey is 27, and my brother Jack is 14. Friday comes around. The biggest blowout wedding I’ve ever been to was my brother and his wife’s, who got a bunch of money from her grandma. Although if OP had trouble with pregnancy with a heart condition, her mother may struggle given she has no heart at all. its obvious she didn't. no children or out of family. My mom also had to tell her for him to not contact me or her. It was not her fault. Tbh I think my sister didn’t tell this to her boyfriend. Op sit down with them and tell them she is not your sister. Because those of us who work in those fields are Mandated Reporters, and an assault that left a 10-year old bruised that also involved racial harassment absolutely should've been reported to the local authorities Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Her sister made her kids feel terrible about themselves, that they did something wrong. At most you are enabling her and stopping her from getting true She had a miscarriage, and I did not. Wait wait wait wait wait, this isn’t just a roommate that’s pregnant. I went through infertility and miscarriages, and a rough pregnancy. I told her to get the f--k out and afterwards she kept calling me but I ignored everything. The way OP spoke about not owing their sister to include them in her plans sounds so hostile and nasty, pretty much everything OP says to her sis is nasty and uncaring For that attitude OP is either an absolute asshole or there is way more to the story. I asked her why she was so insistent, grandma left plenty of money i thought. AITA for telling my friend it’s not my problem she married a useless man? I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). Since they didn't want to be when he was born they don't get to be there for his birthday. My other sister defends her and says my sister performed poorly academic wise due to caring for our grandma. Because she's the "golden child" I suppose. Basically, her entire self-worth is wrapped up in how many kids she has and how nice her house is kept. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my sister that nobody owed her motherhood and she needed to seek help to try and grieve and move forward in a healthier way. I hope her SIL refuses to babysit going forward. not your problem. We eventually succeeded with a donor egg IVF, and our little girl is very much a mama's girl. While my sister was pregnant he fell down the rabbit hole of addiction and never could recover from that. We'd give anything for him to have met them. I have 3yo twin boys and I had a baby girl not even two days ago. Despite trying to conceive for years and having no success with her husband every month, my sister (31F) felt like a supreme disappointment. Please excuse me as English is not my first language. I feel sorry for that child already. They’ve said that it can all just get handed back to me once my sister is finished with it and I may not even have another baby anyway. Am I wrong here? No, you're not. I (18f) am a high school senior who moved out of my parents house a week after my 18th birthday and who does not plan to move back in, ever. AITA for Not Letting My Sister Bring Her New Boyfriend to My Wedding? Fake My wedding is coming up in two months, and I’m (30F) marrying the love of my life, Alex (32M). Step away before she further abuses you. My sister and I were in the backseat of the car, we went around a curve, because my mom had not closed the door correctly, my 4 yo sister fell out of the car. I was confused and she explained that the comment I made was hyper inappropriate specially seeing as daughter had the fertility problems. Ever since I told my entire family that I was pregnant, Carly and I have drifted apart a bit, which I understand, but she never failed to text a few times and Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. UPDATE: AITA for telling my sister she would have been a terrible mother? Helping Alice is not the problem and if you want to do that, do it but don’t shame other people for not doing the same. OP has had to deal with being clearly unwanted for 15 years. Tell us about any non-vi He was not a stable presence in her life. Your education is paramount hers not your problem. I’m not sure how to add links to my old post, but I will try to find out. BB Reddit: AITA for telling My sister that her infertility is not my problem? #r/aita #shortsOrginal Story:I'm 18f and 34 weeks pregnant. BUT, her infertility issues are not your problem. Signed a person who suffered infertility and secondary infertility. This is your warning. NTA don't let the bil in right now and the hubby needs a serious reality check. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I asked my dad and his new wife "why is this my problem" when they were telling me how her daughter was rejected and why dad's wife was glad to meet my dad. And if she doesn’t succeed? She will still spend the time torturing her sister during sister’s labor. Subreddit Announcements Happy Anniversary, AITA! Follow the link above to learn more Exactly I was gonna ask where the baby daddy is only to find out it is him. While I will admit I could have talked to AITA for telling my sister her baby's name is fking stupid?** I (21F) found out not too long ago that my sister, Bea (36F) is pregnant after a long struggle with infertility and I'm pumped and can't wait to be an aunt. Also, if she wants a kid that badly, she could adopt a child that actually needs a home. I'm an 18-year-old female, and I have an older sister, 29, who has two children, ages 8 and 4. I explained that she had come to ask for help. I broke down and just lost it crying harder than I ever have. AITA for telling my sister maybe God doesn’t want her to have children after she complained about struggling to conceive? See, the internet agrees with me! You were wrong to tell me I shouldn't be cruel about my sister's infertility. She's had some fertility treatments, but nothing has worked for her yet. I told my sister her reaction to my daughter's name was way over the top and totally rude. She's not normally like that and this all surprised me. My sister is in individual counseling. She had a miscarriage 2 years ago and outside that, has been unable to get pregnant. I (20f) and my sister (22f) have never really gotten along, with in the last couple of days she announced that she was 7-8 months pregnant. I told my half sister I am not responsible for helping her with her mother's care. She is adult no more freebies. Your sister is frankly no different in terms of hypocrisy from those who claim to be "pro-life" until they're inconveniently They all stared at me but I got up and told my sister she messed up by announcing her pregnancy like this and with 0 consideration for my husband knowing how he feels about this topic. Nothing. Like, she essentially told my sister "you'd be a crap mom, but I want bio grandkids, so pop one out for me and give it to your sister to raise" AITA for telling my sister she is an idiot if she thought her actions at her wedding wouldn’t have consequences. Reply AITA for telling my sister I was the “golden kid” since she couldn’t do anything right. I told her she needed to hear me out fully, before she spoke, and thankfully she did. She said I'm selfish. Even my sister’s boyfriend could do something about it but he doesn’t know the guy. Sofia has struggled with infertility for years, and she and her husband have been wanting a kid for a long time. She has none, she went completely NC with me, my other sister-in-law told me I should give one of my kids to her. Look, her struggle is incredibly sad, it is something I've experienced and wouldn AITA for telling my step kids I'm not their mom? Trigger Warnings: verbal abuse, emotional abuse and I also feel like a big problem is the utter lack of response from dad. I had my last baby on the same day she miscarried and I decided to name mine the name my sister had "AITA for telling my sister her 'miracle baby' isn’t special?" So, I feel like a complete jerk even writing this, but I’m seriously at the end of my rope. My (34m) wife Olivia (32f) was asked by her sister Sofia (29f) if she could be her surrogate. You are not equipped to solve her problem. I would keep your child away too. Three weeks ago he was arrested and my sister found out the guy who was letting her and the kids stay was no longer okay and so she called family members. Our mother asked me to leave and the next day called me to tell me that I was being unnecessarily cruel to my sister when I know what she’s been going through. I slammed the door in their face then my shocked husband told me he’d put the kids to bed and drink some wine. She got defensive saying his "issues" with the topic wasn't her problem and that she and her husband were fed up walking on eggshells around him. This took a toll on her health and she was no longer able to have children after her second abortion. I told my sister to just change the name to literally anything else. AITA for telling him his child is not my problem? (I do not consider his child, my child. Giving her recommendations like deleting or blocking the guy from her socials and phone number. My heart broke for her, but I was not giving her one of my children. He is still a child, and he deserves to get to finish out his childhood, and to not be The reason I posted this is because the problem is a child is hurt because of lies she was told about me and what I thought of her and she expected a much bigger relationship than the one we have. Him and his mother co-parent well. C. The prenup took away his right to her inheritance, not the money in her bank account. the sister want it exactly her own precise way. Once she was done she asked for help to flush since it’s a little bit more difficult than ours at home. He is 11 and living with family. she couldn't raise the kid alone. My gf texted me this We're celebrating our son first birthday in a few weeks and we send the invitations this week. Jfc he's going to be in for a wild ride from here on out. Like I said it's been a week and all we've gotten is empty excuses. ED is not just a once and done thing, it’s a lifelong struggle and it sounds like your sister is still struggling and placing the blame and sadness outside herself- turning to alcoholism When making dinner my sister comes to the kitchen and starts lecturing me about how I should not project my baby crazyness on my daughter. And I’m not saying it’s her fault either. Subreddit Announcement Jane left soon after while crying, her friends are now blasting me on social media for not stepping up and telling me that I’m not a real man after all that Jane has done for me, and that I owed it to her. Her choice was either to die young or be able to conceive children. AITA for telling my sister she is the reason I hardly know her kids? TW: Miscarriage & Pregnancy Loss AITA TW: miscarriage and pregnancy loss anything that's AITA but is not allowed there even posting about Scar from the Ya, Jack will never forgive her for this. I’m serious. When my mom found out I couldn't have kids, she tried to convince my sister to get pregnant, have a baby, then give it to me because my sister had a functioning uterus but my wife and I were more stable. When she complains about pregnancy issues. Possibly his partner. OP wasn't out of line at all, NTA. My sister put her in therapy and was concerned but believed she would be fine if things stayed the same. Got pregnant on the first month, decided to embrace the pregnancy considering all the infertility problems her friend's had, the boy is now 6, well loved and she's an amazing mom AITA telling my sister I won't have her baby? Me(23F) and my sister (24f) are having a little sister issue about her surrogate. I was very on edge throughout my pregnancy, terrified AITA for telling my SIL she's not allowed around my daughter again after she humiliated her over food? The AUDACITY of OP being perfectly fine with her nephews/nieces not having food and not reimbursing her sister is disgusting. It's also a huge problem that OP is not even paying her SIL The divorce was quick as she did not want anything from me and we agreed to a 50/50 split of custody, but I decided to go no contact with her and handled the custody transfer process through my sister (27F) whom I moved in with after the divorce. If that is all she's telling him and her other siblings, she's probably LC with all of them. If you’re insistent on keeping the peace with her by not telling her to knock it off, then limit the contact between them when your daughter is going to ballet. I mean, if it was me, I'd tell Bri to pull her head out of her behind and get therapy, but then, I'm not a mother - I guess mothers react differently, when they see a child suffering. So I looked her straight in the eye and told her I don’t give a flying F she’s infertile that’s her problem not mine than I told her husband he probably can’t have kids because he’s a little b!tch that can’t afford IVF. I always tell her if she needs help just ask; so she came to me in the next room over to ask for help. The story revolves around Emma, a 29-year-old woman who faced a tough decision in her youth: either risk dying young or undergo a medical procedure that would render her infertile. My older sister Carly has been struggling with infertility for over 5 years and IVF is not an option for her (I won't go into that, but it's her personal beliefs that it's not "pure"). She did not fight to get him back. Lest she tries to kidnap him or some other crazy thing. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. He is not stepping up. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. My sister is 35f an AITA for yelling at my sister that my wedding is not her wedding. ) Because she's my older sister and other people are telling me I'm an ass for not helping her because she's now a single mom after her divorce. Not the A-hole On my phone but no problem taking step-dad's money already tried everyone's nerves by refusing to have step-dad walk her down the aisle that's when OP used all their kindness to convince their mom & step-dad AITA for telling my roommate that her pregnancy is not my problem? AITA UPDATE: AITA for walking away from my best friend's wedding over her demands for my appearance change? My sister and her family moved in, now i’m regretting it. Leah stopped eating and got quiet. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my dad and his wife Becca that her kids are not my brother and sister but my stepsiblings and that my mom is not their mom therefor she doesn't treat them like her They all stared at me but I got up and told my sister she messed up by announcing her pregnancy like this and with 0 consideration for my husband knowing how he feels about this topic. I would have dropped you if I was the sister. AITAH for telling my ex that she chose our kids over our relationship and it's not my problem that she is lonely now they are grown up. I hope my sisters would tell me to go to hell if I was ever so insensitive to them, or my nieces. My mom was the opposite. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you When I said this to her she was not happy. I guess to not be an asshole I shouldn’t have fallen for her baiting me into telling her what she should and shouldn’t say Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ My sister “Julie” has tried to have a baby for 5 years. Reply reply [deleted] . You are not a womb-to-rent. Aita for telling my sister I'm not the mother of her children . This always ended up very Long story short my mom wrote a letter to her that was kind of her idea of trying to connect with her and my sister took it wrong and then estranged herself from my parents. plan. It just made me really uncomfortable and idk why that word would pop into someone's head while looking at a child My sister(30F), on the other hand, had 13 miscarriages before she was deemed infertile. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I refused to switch my plans for my sister and it could be seen as "not wanting to spend time with her" when that's far from the truth. I got a beating. Absolutely pathetic. Your sister Taylor needs more therapy because her actions are definitely not okay, but you telling her it’s her fault she can’t have kids is a low blow. At first I brushed it off as her just being upset at her situation but then today I got another mean text from her. This isn’t just “I don’t want to soothe my sister’s grief BB Reddit: AITA for telling My sister that her infertility is not my problem? #r/aita #shortsOrginal Story:I'm 18f and 34 weeks pregnant. Please help. Also she’s very religious and I am not (I swear it will make sense) She acts like her sister is forcing her family into depredation but I'm a teacher, my spouse is a software engineer, and we do hand me downs and free food when possible (we have a great organization that basically dumpster dives and has a couple distribution points in our neighbourhood). OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my mom to tell her sister to stop touching my stuff without permission, but she told me I'd be making her feel uncomfortable in what is supposed to be a safe She needs to find other people to talk to, like a therapist. Plus, they've probably been telling her she needs to "get a real job" for years and she's tired of hearing it. The day after I made the post, me, my fiancé, Stacy, and her husband met up for brunch. If your sister is going to be that way, don’t allow them over on her ballet days and don’t make your daughter stop loving it. 9. Needless to say, I do not like or agree with Sheila and I have no idea what my dad sees in her. He only just started hanging out with Tim 4 months ago, after he started working with him. While she prepared for her procedure, her older sister (31) was facing a heartbreaking struggle of her own: infertility (Reddit) While preparing to end years of physical suffering, she faced an unexpected plea from her sister. Even close. We both have large families, so we had to be pretty strict with our guest list to AITA for telling my sister’s fiancee that she is infertile? I will try to keep this as simple as possible. Comments like that would have immediate and inescapable consequences. I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance). when she was 29 and the kid was 4. The bro is a sibling to both of u. My brother's wife found out she was expecting their first less than a month later. The only contact you should be tolerating from Stella is a grovelling apology. AITA for telling my sister that if she’s so I'm not sure why but my sister-in-law decided that before dinner was the perfect time to tell her children that they needed to stay in school if they didn't want to end up like me and my wife. Your mom is not unreasonable for her request but ur sis sure is for giving u her reason for not helping. or give up having children her choice. B. My heart hurts for her. AITA for asking my aunt to not bring her kids when she comes to see us? AITA for Telling My Sister That I Won’t Change My Wedding? I told him her insecurities were not my problem and he should be more worried about why our son is not confortable around her anymore, i told him im not changing whats worked for our son for 8 years because she’s insecure of a pregnant lady who’s married and wants nothing with her husband but a healthy coparenting relationship for their child. My sister, Jodie, is 34 and has been suffering with infertility for the past 10 years, as well as repeated miscarriages. She has a lot of disdain for “career women”, especially unmarried, childless ones. She is saying that I’m being rude and mean to my new little sister and should be reasonable and give her my room and be the bigger person and act my age and not a little kid. I told my mother it was my sister's fault for pushing her crazy ideas and she knows I don't plan on having kids ever. Hope you find success. NTA but your mistake was in not telling everyone upfront that you were only paying for yourself, your partner, and My grandma didn't know how to block him. ‘ AITA for telling my sister’s fiancee that she is infertile?’ I will try to keep this as simple as possible. She got uninvited from 4th if July by my mom bc she did it so much last year. If either Dad or Stepmom are in a Healthcare or Education field, there could be big consequences to them, too--for allowing it to occur, and especially for the replies to OP!. Yes, it’s mental torture on my sister, I don’t deny that. It makes me an asshole because I guess everyone grieves, and it doesn't matter who for Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. What I would have done to have morning sickness when we were trying. She's probably stressed and overwhelmed and she has no extended family from her mother or our father to be there or help. Help keep the sub engaging! I snapped at my sister and told her that her poor life choices aren't my problem 2) this upset her and it was christmas Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. "Her pregnancy is not my problem. Lots of love there. Kasey is a drug addict, she has been for the past 7 or 8 years. My 26M sister Emma 29F was very sick in high school. So my sister's reaction when I said I wouldn't be her surrogate was shocking to me. this is not a fucking secret you tell other people to keep. The prenup just makes it so her parents money won’t go to him if they die, it goes to the parents kids and OPs kids if they have any. However, if she's made it 16 14 years without several "other people are not as quick as you at X, but that doesn't mean you jump in and/or berate them" discussions from your parents, teachers, and other adults, there is probably a limited window left for her to modify her behavior. She asked why and I was honest and said that I don't trust her because of all of her comments throughout my pregnancy and her refusal to hand my daughter back to me like I requested when she was here so no, she wasn't allowed around my baby at I think OP has her stuff together, and is enjoying her life. Premies struggle life long, we might look ok but there are always issues that we deal with. They also said that even though she made a mistake she was there for me, so it would be horrible of me to not be there for her and the kid. It is your parents' job and honestly, she probably does need a screening for autism. The world doesn't stop because I'm sad. Remind them she is actively CRITICIZING THEIR PARENTING every time she says NTA. I presumed that they aren't having kids and therefore they were giving up based on her Agree with you. They went to thrift stores and bought decent, well fitting clothes but in bright colors that the mother and her sister HATED. The family has a code word that means to met up at my home because there is My sister has now been officially diagnosed with Postpartum Depression and that is the trump card/Hail Mary of the situation. I thought maybe he didn't need one, but it still felt weird. We've been planning this wedding for over a year, and everything is finally coming together. Then called their mother a bad parent in front of them for allowing it. I'll never forget when i was like 13 and my 14 year old friend came over, held my 2 year old little sister and called her "sexy" in front of my mom 🤮 My jaw dropped and I didn't invite that friend over again. No more drama with everyone concentrates on your mental health to succeed. However, one thing I don’t agree with is how my family has handled it. this is a community like r/AmITheAsshole except unlike that subreddit here you can post interpersonal conflicts, anything that's AITA but is not allowed there even posting about Scar from the lion king and trying to convince redditors that he was not the AH. I told my sister that it isn’t my problem and that she could handle this herself. My sister(31F), in her younger years drop out of school, took drugs and sleep with random men. I want to prepare you for more feelings. She will let him in. I then told her husband we would not come back until my sister fixed what ever hatred she had for my wife. My sister tried to backpaddle saying Leah is just a kid who doesn't know much about this stuff and was just "spouting nonesense". awww hell to the nahhhhhhh nahh nahhhhhhhhh!! The audacity, AU-DA-CI-TY!! I wouldn’t even talk to the parents anymore; I first would tell them off, describe ALL the pain she went thru during her miscarriage and then finding my sister in bed with my husband, then finding out that she was able to get pregnant and have a child with her husband while she lost hers and then tell them I'm 22f. My brother put a gun to my mom's head because she tried to stop him from doing something, I got in trouble for not telling her about his plans. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote It's the eggs that are the problem with age, not the uterus. The sister's bias toward darker skin and hair could very well stem from colorism she faced as a child - others may have negatively compared her to her lighter-skinned sister, so rather than feeling bad about being darker, maybe the sister over-compensated by deciding that darker is AITA for not agreeing to my sister adopt my baby not to mention since her sister is the type who sees adopted babies as "fake babies" and thinks there has to be a biological connection for there to be an emotional connection, the chances of her using that as an excuse any time her relationship with the kid is even mildly strained are This was our dynamic 100%. But just as is the case with infertility or miscarriages, my grief is not your problem. My niece was traumatized by his death because she was with him at the time. You are not going to disrespect me in my house. And I know they would, and they would use harsher Cut her off financially, this is not your child and not your responsibility and she needs to learn that since she is a mother now, she should act like one and take some accountability for her own financial wellbeing. And OP should seriously consider this. I have seen my wife be super depressed/sad (particularly when her sister gets pregnant like a week after trying once), and even angry. My husband and I decided not to invite my sister or her husband. Now, during my early 20's I got a FB message from one of my siblings, my other siblings followed soon and they started all harassing me about how she missed me, and how I had walked away just because they were not 'as rich as me', I must admit I felt pretty bad and agreed to reconnect with my mom so she wouldn't think I was looking down on her 17M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. "My sister (31f) is struggling with infertility. Thursday comes around. I also stood my ground. my (26f) sister in law(30f) is infertile it’s literally her My sister and I both have been strong advocates for people's right to choose. My sister had gone in and was complaining that it hadn’t been flushed. the first child's father ran off. Quite honestly I feel like OP is NTA/ESH (Edited because it does seem more fitting, considering the circumstances and day the outburst happened, although sister is the bigger asshole). My wife, even when she is at her best, is not one for kids. They've sunk an ungodly amount of money into every possibly treatment for her and me and Jack have been put on the back-burner as a result. My parents think they can help her but they clearly can't, she doesn't want help. Even my parents have said that they can’t see why I wouldn’t just hand it over to save my sister money and effort because that’s what family does. . She doesn't enjoy being around them and they frustrate her easily. Her husband especially infuriated us all, at first he would cook but then he did'nt do that at all, did not help at ALL around the house and only did his garden which was a NTA If my sister ever spoke about my child the way Stella spoke about yours, it'd be the last day I called her my sister. The reason I question how I handled this is maybe there is more and I should have done a little more digging into her hatred for the name before telling her she was being over the top. AITA for telling my ex his lack of money is not my issue? I told my ex and his wife that their money issues weren't my problem and that may be taken as me rubbing my success in their faces. And OP's sister's problem seems to be a uterus injury, not an issue with her eggs. I found out about my first just a few months before the first anniversary. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I think I may have been the asshole by accusing cousin of not struggling with infertility but I'm not sure if I overreacted or I am in the right why are we even talking about the sister here. Sister says I don't own the name, it's a common name where we live (it is) and I am going with Rodrigo a middle name anyway, not a first, so it won't be a problem. When she found out she started bombarding my phone with texts, telling me how awful I am. We’re not allowed to talk about babies around Julie. "Hysterical pregnancy" is a questionable diagnosis at any time and under any circumstance - it's usually a fake story meant to make women sound 'crazy' and 'untrustworthy' ie. Nope. She was just telling you her problem Throwaway My English is a work in progress so just a warning I’ll call my “brother” mike and my ex Tammy 10 years ago my than fiancé left me at the alter (most humiliating thing I’ve ever been through) and went on our honeymoon with mike in her note she told me she loved him since high school but he was never interested so she used me to get to him. "2. She will use OP’s vulnerability to manipulate the situation. Stop calling and texting. Its not her money, it’s her parents money. I was a premie because my parents did not understand the importance of bed rest. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be in the wrong because Vicki and Tom regretted what they did and were trying to get their son back, and I prevented that. Infertility is super hard on a woman and can affect her love life greatly. Well my sister saw that and then texted me saying how I was an asshole for spending all this money on a vacation but not helping my own sister have a family. AITA for asking my sister to f* off and telling her that her pregnancy is not my problem?** I (32 M) have a sister Andrea (27 F). ) Not allowing my Sister and my nephews to move into my house rent free 2. The dust has settled a bit. Love my sister and my nephew but they and her husband lived with us for like 5 or 6 monthes. Infertility is an awful thing, but it can't stop everyone from having children. I buy 2nd hand when ever possible and repair things Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. It was a hard decision for her and she doesn’t like to talk about it. Do what's best for your son, being made to take care of his half brother and sister at 14 is not in his best interests, so you would be right in going for full custody. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Told my sister "If she has kids that I won't babysit them like I babysit their dog. I am aware of this and still said no which might be an awful thing since I am her big sister. Tsk tsk. I told my sister that her insecurities were not my wife's problem and that the one sided rivalry she had with her needed to stop. I went over everything again with my little sister, she promised me it had happened the way she was telling me, she told me she was scared he was going to SA her. If she allows her sister in the room, her sister will push for her husband to be allowed in. NTA. My sister called me and asked me for their invitations since they didn't get one. So I told her that I won’t give up my room because this has all my stuff and I’m comfortable in my room so her daughter will have to go to the other only available room. inferior to men - but in Mary's case it's long been a way to punish her for having been on the wrong side of This hurts me as a husband whose wife had fertility issues. this is very true. My sister (32F) has AITA for telling my ex that her kids were not my problem or my son's problem. I legit was walking around like “oh my god weddings that great gotta be like $200k,” there was an open bar, big ol white tent with air conditioning in summer, idk I don’t know fancy stuff clearly but it was at a nice hotel in Boston, right on the river, and sure It's unreasonable for people struggling with infertility to expect to ban all mention of anyone else's pregnancy (though many people in that situation do attempt to do this or expect others to comply with their wishes) but it is wise and kind to handle this news compassionately and thoughtfully. 2. With the announcement came some very odd rules, Like I can’t have junk food in my house if she’s over, I can’t have my cat around her he needs to be locked away, I can’t have pop cans in the fridge, and a few other along with the She barely finished high school and flunked out her first semester of CC. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: AITA for telling my DIL her feelings aren’t won’t my problem and for fucks sakes you don’t need to be invited to everything. He thinks my mom is keeping me away from him and says hypocritical things about her and my older sister. I was very upset in the moment, but I feel like the situation could have been avoided if he had not been so petty. Have some strength in your convictions, OP. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here Fr. AITA for telling my husband off for wanting me to let my infertile BIL and his wife experience child birth by being with me in the delivery room? I would, too! I hope OP has a good relationship with her mother, sister, or a close friend. Subreddit Announcement The Asshole Universe is Expanding, Again: Introducing Another New Sister Despite trying to conceive for years and having no success with her husband every month, my sister (31F) felt like a supreme disappointment. " I immediately got uncomfortable and told my sister that wouldn't be possible and I wouldn't ask that of her. I could at least tell him to watch his mouth around this topic specifically but I haven't done that thinking it was not my responsibility. The day after my mother called me telling me I should have just drank at the party because I ruined my sister's gender reveal and now everyone is worried about me and mad at my sister about pushing me to drink. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! My SIL lost custody of her other child about 2 yrs ago. It's been almost 5 years since he died, but that's on me. It was a AITA for telling my sister to stop telling everyone her husband cheated on her? Tldr(it's long) my sis keeps bringing her husband to family and friend functions and bringing up him cheating whenever there's a chance. My husband has only met her maybe 3 times. I saw red and was about to let her have it but my mom and brother told her that she was being rude and that she needed to apologize. Was ok at first but then I was all ready for them to get their own place. You are an adult and also ask their permission to have your boyfriend over. While this painful chapter in her life remains largely unspoken, it became a point of contention when her fiancé, Adam, expressed a desire for children. The reason would be that I keep dismissing my sister whenever she comes to me with her complains about my husband. She didn't. My sister is 16 and since we were little kids our parents have pushed the idea that sister's are friends, and that your sister is the person you put before all other friends and you do whatever they need from you. This is a problem between her and Scott not her Telling my sister her grieving her dog is not the same as me grieving my husband. Women don't die of them, and whatever Mary had surely killed her. " Your un-likable. "AITA for throwing my SIL's infertility in her and her husband's faces?" I’m gonna be real with guys on my second bottle of wine so please excuse any grammar or spelling mistakes. The issue is that they have always showed her more preference and although I was not badly treated they hardly paid any attention to me. It's not her fault that this happened so my not wanting to help is what I think could tip the scales of me being TA. She had to hear about it for 10 years and not in a way of: I'm sad because my child died. She wants to blame me because I wouldn't let our grandma go into a nursing home, so my sister had to help grandma in addition to schoolwork. And he may not care about them, as you said, but that doesn’t stop him from verbally abusing them or leaving bruises on them. I had my last baby on the same day she miscarried and I decided to name mine the name my sister had picked out for her “baby”. She married my ex, had kids with him, and has stuck by him through his destroying their finances. Yes, this is your husbands child It was not a hysterical pregnancy. This is, at the very least, his babymama. if you claim to love the other person, tell them. OP. You are not going to tell me how to spend MY money. She has been dating Adam 29M In my sister’s situation, she has a restraining order, but the kids have court mandated visitation. My sister and her husband are living together again and in couple's therapy. Turns out, they flushed all the money that was supposed to go to me down the toilet to take care of my sister & her kid & her expensive pregnancy, turns out was a lot worse than I was led to believe. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. She herself treated me with disdain. Alice may be AITA for telling my sister to stop making everything about her? when they finally pin pointed the problem to his production levels, it broke up their marriage. My sister Emma was very sick in high school. He was supposed to see me when I was visiting my sister a couple of years ago and for one of my birthdays and NEVER showed up. I called my sister and told her what happened and told her my niece had 2 days to give me everything back or I’d call the police and she said she would handle it. She gets mad at While she prepared for her procedure, her older sister (31) was facing a heartbreaking struggle of her own: infertility (Reddit) While preparing to end years of physical My sister(30F), on the other hand, had 13 miscarriages before she was deemed infertile. Sister having her own family to take care of does not give anybody the right to have u take full responsibility of taking care of a disabled person. AITA for telling my sister her baby's name is f**king stupid? I (21F) found out not too long ago that my sister, Bea (36F) is pregnant after a long struggle with infertility and I'm pumped and can't wait to be an aunt. it's basically her problem. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ I ended up telling her that while it sucks, it’s not my fault that some people want kids and can’t have them and that her infertility baggage isn’t really my issue. Wow, that’s terrible. I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived). The wife does not get to be unkind to her for 15 years then suddenly wants to have her back in her life not even out of compunction or genuine regret, but only because Like the title said, I lost my s--t. I might be an asshole because I told my sister men find her intimidating. Best wishes for your ‘ AITA for telling my DIL her feelings are not my problem and for f**k sakes you don’t need to be invited to everything?’ I will keep this as short as possible. AITA for not caring that Jona needs help and telling them it's not my problem? ETA: just want to add here that I have met this woman twice, for at most 15 minutes each time. We have irrational anger and jealousy Hello everyone, I just wanted to post an update on the situation with my sister, Stacy. Honestly a lot of the problem here is the parents, for not listening or wanting to listen to their biological daughter. You know, I hadn't actually thought of that. Because when she does some dirty crap to you then you can’t act surprised. They can be her Him doing this is proof her does not support you. My dad passed shortly after my sister's youngest 3rd birthday. I do not know why she even lost custody but he SAYS he was abused. As sad as it is that your sister is struggling with infertility issues, that does not give her the right to pressure, harass and manipulate you into You're not the asshole. I NEVER would lash out to her. Bro really just wanted to get his rocks off and then call it good and everything else is now her problem. My sister immediately brightened and said "Oh! She can look after the kids while she is waiting to start. She isn't hurt and lashing out at people, like Bri. mqwyby qicb uvdz ogip gdxfr ufdmch dgs vgjnhedj cdhqtmq rxgef