Aita for cutting my daughters hair My mom was weird about me cutting my hair too. I chopped my hair off from waist length to shoulder length to, freshman year of high school, a pixie cut because I literally could not deal with my hair. People cross-post stories for a chance that our podcast hosts (Sean, John and Josh) will read the story on the show. “I don’t see it as a big deal as I have always had shoulder length hair as my hair does not grow very fast and I get frequent trims,” the stepmother shared. Subreddit Announcements Happy Anniversary, AITA! Follow the link above to learn more After the bar piercing I told my ex that she had to consult me if she was going to alter my daughter’s appearance in any way from now on. For children under 3 (which is when it’s most commonly diagnosed) the overall survival rate is a dismal 11-17% but for children over the age of 3 it’s something like 85%. (i have chubby cheeks and my face is quite small). my husband came in and made a comment or two about how i could or should not cut it short, i told him i was just thinning it. My mom has had a pixie cut her whole life and would always pressure me to cut my hair short because it was easier to take care of but I hated short hair! She forced a really heinous Dorothy Hamil style bowl cut on me (I was born WAY after the 70s so it was super dated!) for years until I finally got old enough to argue, and she gave up and told At first she thought I was joking, but when she realised she started to cry. Btw she was right lmao. My bf has primary custody of the both of their kids. It's been almost a year since I got a haircut. He had always said that he would break up with me if I ever cut my hair, but I didn’t think he was serious. She picked a mint green snd the I don’t want my daughters hair to be cut. Whenever I go to the hair salon, I just ask for like a trim, an inch off the front, back, and sides at most. She asked why I allowed daughter to cut all her hair off. I really don't want to cut my hair, so I told her I refuse but she's telling me that as long as I live there I have to listen to her. Like gum had to be cut out or something. Their well being will fall on him if the school or anybody thinks that the children are not taking care of. Folks there are a bit edgier, lots of tattoos, etc. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: My husband wants to cut our daughter’s hair because she wasn’t taking care of it with products that she doesn’t use because they don’t work for her hair. My (19M) older brother’s (32M) 7-year-old daughter, Meadow, started losing her hair due to chemotherapy for stage It was a simple shoulder length cut. However, instead of doing this horrific act, time could’ve been spent helping her SD learn and understand that these things cost money, and shouldn’t be misused. We traded Judgement_Bot_AITA • I'm Mexican-American and I've always had thick hair. My daughter told me that A knew about C wanting to cut her hair and A didn’t want the hair cut which is why she went to my daughter for help. He has an 11 year old daughter from a previous relationship. He acted personally betrayed, like he owned my head. I told my girlfriend she can't wash my daughters hair 2. . She looks so cute now. My youngest daughter cut her waist length hair to a cute pixie cut. Absolutely. Not sure what fumes that woman is talking about but I’m a fossil and been coloring my hair since I was 12. Then, as we were leaving, my mom told me that the cut was uneven, and took me straight back to get it cut even /r/Parenting is the place to discuss the ins and out as well as ups and downs of child-rearing. Badly. Don’t ask me about how you should cut your hair then. While shampooing her I (F18) got into an argument with my grandma and my aunt because I didn’t allow them to cut my hair. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I yelled at my niece for cutting a large amount of hair , AITA for wanting to go with my 13-year-old daughter to get her hair cut (a gift my stepdaughter is treating her to)? I'll let her style my daughter's hair if Daughter is willing, and she'll do things like straighten her hair without Daughter's permission and say "helpful" things like, "Your hair will be disgusting if you don't listen to me a few days ago i cut my hair really early in the morning because i felt like i needed something to change. My response to them is on me. My daughter wanted a pixie badly so I booked an appointment and allowed my 6 year old to decide on her hair cut. They've had my daughter over for weekends and holiday stays before so I wasn't worried about anything happening, and Vihana seemed fine during our morning and nightly phone calls. My sister has had a few haircuts by her own doing and it never got fixed so it It isn't safe to get a haircut in my area right now. ” i told her i want to compromise so that she doesn’t tell me how ugly my hair looks everytime she calls me and so i don’t feel like a chubby dumpling because of my hair. My (22F) sister (29) has a 9 year old girl. Not copy your older sister. She stayed like a month with us before she went home. It's become a huge thing. I female 40 am white and my daughter is a mixed dominican she has dark curly hair. ” AITA for refusing to cut me or my children's hair? Not the A-hole My husbands 11yo daughter constantly has head lice and we have her every other weekend. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I am making it impossible for my daughter to have the wedding of her dreams out of spite. I spoke to Alex first and some interesting information was revealed that I'm very angry about. I have since she was young. And if you have someone with experience with curly hair, go to them for advice. Our hair is very similar: long, blonde, fine and super straight. And you can very well make your long hair "presentable". That would take me 3 hours. I hope your mom remembers she loves you more than your hair 💕 Background: My daughter "Tia" has a cognitive delay. My husband reacted the same way when, at 28, I chopped my hair to my shoulders because I had accidentally damaged it after getting highlights. I also have to say; my dad and I did this to my mom when I was about 6. I couldn’t stand it when I would pay people to trim my hair and they would cut far more off than I asked for. I refused to cut my hair to pay for my dad’s gambling mistake, even though I guess it is a little bit vain but still it’s a lot of hair Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ AITA for cutting my daughters’ hair really short because I didn’t know what else to do? Yes. While there isn’t an explicit age a child can decide where they live, the judge will take into account the wishes of the child when decided custody, so the wishes of a six year old are gonna carry the same weight as the wishes of a 16 year old in Kentucky. The problem is this type of hair is impractical for a young, active child. We sat outside with my grandma and my mom let me practice cutting her hair. NTA, I used to babysit for a family that have children with 4C hair types. Am I the asshole for straightening my daughters hair without my wife’s permission even though Gracie is my daughter too? Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I've had to cut my hair extremely short twice because of mats. I have very straight hair and when I was 10 I really wanted curly hair so my mom permed it for me, it was more of a heavy wave style. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. When I was little, one of my mom’s good family friends became a stepmother to a little girl who was my age. The haircut maks me look more androgynous which is great, personally. AITA for telling my daughter she can come The first time I went to a hairdresser (I was 8 or so) I asked for a trim (I loved my long hair) but instead they cut about half my hair off - I walked in with hair down to my lower back and walked out with it just below my shoulders. So I told her that if she forces me to cut my hair I'll She also wanted specific hair styles for each day. ” “Well As a mother who is in love with my daughters hair, NTA. Last year she wanted her hair shaved, When I told her my daughter might need a hair cut behind this she flipped out and said “I won’t let my grand daughter look like a bull d*ke!” And I was mortified. " To which MIL responds: "Yeah, she had a bath, it's probably a bit static. You can tell Meg her hair is beautiful a million times, but if you still turn around and force her to Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I do my daughters hair all the time but this time she had been away with his family for a month and when she came back to me that’s how her hair was. This sparked tension and She f*ing cut all my beautiful hair off, up to just below my ears and my mother told me “don’t cry, it will hurt her feelings. Oldest is 16, middle is 14, and youngest is 10. She excitedly said yes. that wouldn’t change just because someone else cut one of my daughters’ hair, I still wouldn’t have emotions over the hair I would however have emotions over overstepped boundaries throwaway to protect the privacy of those involved. The hair dresser was a little shocked because she had hair down to her hips. I am so sad and AITA for cutting my daughter's hair . Lately my daughter has been wanting to dye her hair. I shot back at her to get over the hair-cut as it made daughter happy. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. Unfortunately starting in March my hair started to deteriorate. Look, this whole thing is above Reddit’s free-to-play pay grade, but I will say that Jenna at the very least should probably get a nice thank you card with some cash in it or a gift card to Starbucks or whatever it is that teenage girls want to spend money on. My LO was born with alot of hair, by the age of 2yo it was down to her bottom. I'm AFAB and my mom is transphobic af. She isn't her dads pretty princess. If the kid wants one that's a different story. ALWAYS right before Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. She started hating brushing it so I asked if she wanted a hair cut. I'll be getting a haircut the moment hair salons open back up, but for the time being my daughter has been doing my hair! My hair is currently past shoulders and i hate it, so I asked my parents yesterday if i could cut it again, my mother was alright with it but i guess something sparked in my fathers head because he started yelling at me and telling me that i was his “beautiful little girl” and that i needed to stop trying to look like a guy, not only that Posted by u/Terrible_Play_3121 - 6 votes and 12 comments AITA for disagreeing with my daughter’s punishment? My daughter (17) is a senior at a private all girls high school. He took me out one day and asked what I wanted to do. There’s a girl in her chemistry class that survived cancer and wears a wig to school. Once was because a hair dresser didn't listen to me and used a round brush to dry my If my mom had cut my hair I would have cried and become rather resentful for a period. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I am, by definition, controlling what Katie does with her hair, and it’s very possible she could take it as me thinking she needs to have long hair, though that is not my I may be the asshole because by cutting my hair I have a 85% chance of hurting her social life because we live in a extremely religious society and not many woman cut their hair here. Im close friends with ‘Julia’ who lives in the apartment across from ours, she and her wife have three adopted children (19M, 16F, 9F) both the younger two are black with hair types similar to my daughter, the oldest (‘Milo’) is AITA for forcing my step daughter to cut her hair? AITA for forcing my step daughter to cut her hair? upvote r/redditonwiki. AITA for punishing my daughter for cutting her hair? So my daughter is twelve and she’s always been more on the alternate side. Today my aunt and cousin’s were here to visit me my parents and my grandma and to take my grandma back home because she doesn’t live in the country. I’ve heard “a woman’s hair is her crown and glory” my whole life. On friday we went to a gathering and both got inebriated, my sister proceeded to come back to mine as it was the closest. It's actually creepy. That was all I wanted was my daughter to be happy The overall statistics for ATRT are somewhat skewed because of a massive difference in survival rates depending on the patients age. I (14f) am having issues with my parents over brushing my younger step sister’s (7f) hair quite often, probably every few days. she has curly, beautiful hair (mixed race, she got her hair type from her dad). And not to forget a decent haircut that accentuates my curls. That's when you come into your own, experiment with styles and clothes and hair. AITA? I realize how attached my wife was to Anna's hair, but at AITA FOR CUTTING MY DAUGHTER'S BRAIDS. So after reassuring her that I would tell my mom (f40) that she had nothing to She’s not my daughter so my mom might think that I had no right to cut her hair without her permission. She's always let me have autonomy over my hair. Taking to Reddit’s Am I The Arsehole (AITA) forum, he wrote: ‘Me and my wife have a little I might be an asshole for taking my teenage daughter to the hairdresser's without discussing it with my former wife and allowing my daughter to have her hair cut significantly shorter what In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a woman asked if she was wrong for cutting off her MIL after she cut her daughter's hair. The OP and her husband have refused, as their daughters prefer having long I cut my hair to shoulder length when I was 24 after giving up on trying to take care of it. My (30f) 4 year old daughter has never had her hair cut before. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I banned my daughter, tomie from styling her hair and stopped her from attending a party because it would make my younger daughter, ella feel bad as she is AITA for forcing my step daughter to cut her hair?https://bit. They're talking to you like you're 12. We had lice probably 12 times in several years and I was very grateful that my mom never cut my hair. I mean I can’t stand looking at it but I guess she has to go through his that phase and it’s just hair. It’s pretty unusual for a hairdresser to listen to the mom over the adult daughter. Me (29M) and my wife (30F) have a little girl (8F) who I'll be calling Anna. My sisters hair has been growing since she was two so this is the first time she’s ever had her hair cut. " Internally I lose my shit. She is her own person. (My husband's black) and how I don't like my daughter's hair. We cut it into a short bob. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I tried to give my daughter a stuffed bear filled with my hair from childhood, which may make me an a**hole because I did not take my wife's feelings into account when I WATCH THE FULL PODCAST HERE - https://youtu. We have a generally good relationship. Well really my hair dresser moved and I needed my bangs trimmed so my mom explained that she would do it, and then I asked her if I could cut my longer hair and she helped me by holding the hair and I held the scrissors, totally silly but that and not going to that hair dresser was what AITA for telling my wife off after getting our daughter to cut her hair off, even after being told not to? Not the A-hole My wife is currently battling cancer, and one of the things she’s told me she’s struggling with the most was losing her hair. I don't want to cut my hair, which might make me the asshole because my boyfriend has to clean it up. She thought we were going to be friends. THIS SUBREDDIT IS FOR A PODCAST CALLED Reddit On Wiki, THAT READS REDDIT STORIES. I have kids myself now. My husband, Mark, is getting fed up with her shedding, and thinks we should My sons have been mistaken for girls since birth even with short, straight hair and wearing “boy” clothes. Due to health reasons my hair was falling out in chunks and in May i made the difficult decision to cut my hair. AITA? Sorry for any grammar mistakes or typos English is not my first language! My Mom detested long hair and always cut my hair to shoulder length, then she'd perm it. She is 6 now and still has short hair by her choice. It would cost 200 bucks each time to have it re-done. The week before my high school graduation she has a hairdresser cut my hair about an inch or so at the bottom saying she'd finally allowed me to cut my hair before also putting in some highlights (I didn't really want them but it made her happy). I'm her legal guardian. r/redditonwiki. Now they have full heads of beautiful bouncy curls that are absolutely adorable and I recall being asked constantly when I was going to cut their hair mainly by my MIL (has similar curly hair) and my dad because they need to look like NTA I get dyeing it to look like a natural color. Eve loved it when I For context me, my ex, and our daughter are all black, I have 4c hair, my ex has 3a and our daughter has 4a. 5K votes, 3. So, I don’t want to cut it short. I took my 8yo daughter to get her long locks cut short, and it really upset my wife, who was very attached to her hair and loved braiding and styling it every morning. Your daughters are allowed to change their mind about their hair. She wrote: "AITA for barring my MIL from seeing my daughter after she cut and straightened my “AITA for cutting my daughter’s hair without discussion with my husband?” The OP’s daughter wanted to maintain her hairstyle. She says she did it because her bangs were in her face but she didn't AITA for not wanting to cut my hair? Not the A-hole I have really long hair that goes down to my back. AITA for getting my daughter’s hair cut? Not the A-hole Our daughter is 5. OP's dad is TA for not protecting them in this, and not being concerned about fiance's attempt to control/abuse their daughter. I thought my Mom was going to throttle her when she saw it. I told her that I would not be doing this as myself and my daughter love her long curly hair. She’s been given a near 100% chance of survival since we caught it early, but the chemotherapy has I understand the frustration of products potentially being misused; my own daughter has curly hair and I’m well aware of how expensive products for curly hair can be. I can’t Stand her or father of my child. At least in the US. I have trauma and I have triggers. Now I'm 21 and yet my hair grow out for a year, my mom's way Posted by u/zeedrome - 45 votes and 21 comments My sister-in-law finally came back about a month ago and is continuing to help my daughters once again. We are now half an hour away from each other. The MIL is funding the wedding and has demanded that the OP’s three daughters, who are bridesmaids, get their long hair cut My daughter (16) Megan just finished her cancer treatment, she's lost her hair in the process and she's been incredibly insecure because of it. I only had hair shorter than my shoulders once in my life and I had to do it behind her back. My dad is irritated at this, and says I should cut my hair shorter, because all haircuts at our local salon are $15 and if I’m getting a little cut off, I AITA For Not Making My Daughter Cut Her Hair? Not the A-hole My 14-year-old daughter, Violet, is currently receiving chemo for Stage IV Burkitt Leukemia, which has caused her to lose her hair. ” “However, the other day when she was at my house, my SIL asked my oldest daughter why they decided to cut their hair so short and she responded with the whole story about how their hair got matted and their dad (me) made them. I still have trauma from my own mother cutting my hair like a boys because she didn't want to brush my hair for school every morning. Update (Same Post): November 30, 2023 (Next Day) In this situation, the mother, represented by the original poster, is being accused by her mother-in-law (MIL) and sister-in-law (SIL) of trying to ruin a wedding over a disagreement about her daughters’ hair. Commenters were merciless. My daughter and I have a trade off. Like if my daughter came to me and asked to cut her hair super short, I'd feel sad but her happiness is more important so I'd let her do it without hesitation. She said she’s And one man is in serious trouble with his wife after taking their eight-year-old daughter to get a haircut without her permission. When I was little - 4 yrs old - my mother decided to cut my hair (long enough to sit on) to a bob because it was easier for her to manage. I f 16 cut my little sisters hair, and my mom is like extremely mad. I’ve had a mom cry while paying because she wanted daughter’s (17) hair left long and we did a clipper cut. Cut off 12" of hair. My daughter has recently become very enthusiastic about her culture and has started listening to spanish music and started learning spanish. She told me that if my daughter did not cut her hair off and wear the dress, we could not attend. Subreddit Announcements Happy Anniversary, AITA! Anya like my own daughters has long hair, so cutting the matted hair out would have meant her losing well over half of the length of her hair. 8K votes, 337 comments. The last time she watched my daughter she cut her bangs without asking. I loved my new cut, but I also got highlights that while they were cool for a hot second, they faded pretty quickly. Her father is though because a)he neglected his daughter’s hair so badly while she was in the his care that it YTA. she came over the other day to stay for the night and her was extremely So AITA for cutting her hair? ETA: I am black while my boyfriend is white. I said no problem, we won't be attending. My hair is nowhere near as long as my daughter's, but it goes slightly below my shoulders now. her mom has straight hair, i also have curly hair so when she comes over i sometimes help her braid it how she likes. I was trying to grow out her hair to put it in pig tails and told her this. My mother was aghast because she spent hours each week taking care of my hair AND because it was incredibly cruel. We're now a few months later and the inch has grown and my hair I didn't cut my long hair short. It was something I wanted to learn, since I didn't trust hairstylists anyway after one butchered my mom's hair when I was little- it was mostly typical little kid doesn't like large, sudden change. Redditor PearlDawson was furious when their 10-year-old daughter cut all of her six-year-old sister’s hair off while she was sleeping as a prank. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I got my 4 year old daughter's hair cut short because she hates having her hair brushed, washed or styled and gave up on battling with her. “It’s a AITA for taking my daughter to get her hair cut when I knew it would upset my wife? Me (29M) and my wife (30F) have a little girl (8F) who I'll be calling Anna. At the time it felt like the right thing, but now I'm worried that I should have called them Especially at 16 years old. Because my girlfriend got angry at me and this has caused a big fight between us Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. My mom thinks I ruined my daughter's hair, and my MIL thinks I'm babying her because of her autism. The underside was left wispy and long. She said, "As your mother, I feel that you should have thought about me before getting your hair cut. I have told her that she’s not allowed to. My mom never lets me do anything to my hair, I had to convince her to let me cut it. So far we have been lucky and have only caught it from her once and that was roughly 8 months ago. My wife and I have 3 daughters. My daughter has ringlet and when it's long it's a pain to maintain. This was after YEARS of thinking about it, along with other factors. I told the bride about my decision two weeks before the wedding and she didn’t say anything bad. AITA for telling my wife off after getting our daughter to cut her hair off, even after being told not to? My wife is currently battling cancer, and one of the things she’s told me she’s struggling with the most was losing her hair. MIL has been painting my 14m old daughter's nails for months without asking and though it bothers me I haven't said anything. Her hair is continually getting everywhere, and is becoming very tangled. It took me 5 hours to brush out and weeks (and a trim) for her hair not to look horrible. Here's a little tale, I am currently 19 but when I was 17, I also got a very big changing cut to my hair. My stepmom (34f) and dad (42m) never put in effort or care for treating my sisters hair. “My daughter 11 has long-standing hate of her very thick, AiTA for cutting my daughters' hair really short because I was not prepared to deal with it? TLDR: White dude let his biracial daughters' hair get matted and cut it off. In the end the stylist agreed and cut her hair. Couldn't you do your wife a favor and marry somebody to whom you are actually attracted to? This. upon seeing me that morning my mom pulled me into my room and said that i did this for attention and that this was a sign of mental illness despite me struggling 6. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I was being annoying about growing out my hair and embarrassed my dad at the barbers when it was going to be cut. The owner of the salon cut her hair for her. I get he was The MIL is funding the wedding and has demanded that the OP’s three daughters, who are bridesmaids, get their long hair cut to shoulder length. my longer hair made people think i was female and i didn't really want that. Although she's 25yo, her intellectual and emotional capacity are that of a 12/14yo. I said I wanted my hair cut. They didn’t remain friends. The hair-cutting thing is the latest TickTok BS But now my wife’s telling me that perms chemically burn and damage hair to change the texture and that I “damaged” our daughters hair. 6K comments. My husband has always wanted her to have long, waist length hair. Now, Anna has very thick, blonde and curly hair that my wife adores. I work from home so I mainly end up taking care of her. I used to do the daughters hair. Even when she told me bangs wouldn't work with my hair she let me get them anyway. As soon as I was out on my own I went out and buzzed all my hair off and it was past my armpits at that point. AITA for brushing out A’s hair so she avoided getting a I (31m) took my daughter Chelsea (6f) to get a hair cut. I haven’t been to a hairdresser in 18 years because shitty people cut my hair in ways I didn’t want Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Wow! nope NTA Its hair for goodness sake! It will grow back - but more than that, its YOUR hair and you are an adult! I could see getting a bit upset if you were to decide to get your face tattoo'd with bars down the front of it or shave your head and have profanties tattood on all over your head -- but having a short pixie cut isnt something for a mother to cry about or a father to get upset My mom shaved her hair the first day it started falling out too. Clearly your daughter needs help and extra support and maybe with some time you and your wife would’ve seen 0:00 Why Sam??2:38 AITA For Telling Fiancé My Daughter Has to Be In Our Wedding4:03 Response8:04 Update10:22 Response Cont'd13:14 Gossip Gurl Minute15:16 AIT The same went for my friends of Asian descent who lightened their hair to what sounds like the same color as OP’s daughter’s hair, because our teachers weren’t racist assholes and no one ever went so far as to dye their hair blue except the swim team when they were going to States and had special dispensation for school spirit reasons. Trimming ends is even a challenge so I suspected then and now, that the Hinduism coupled with the cutting was just too much for her and she snapped. My entire family and my wife’s family all Don’t fuck with your daughter’s hair. I can't handle a certain color of shirts, I won't wear one, but I'm not gonna demand my friend take her shirt off to make me feel better. I told her that this is the cut my daughter wanted. She asked: “AITA for barring my MIL from seeing my daughter after she cut and straightened my daughter’s hair without permission?” The Original Poster (OP) explained: “I (39 F[emle]) have a daughter Vihana (14 F) with my husband Cole (39 M[ale]). I'm South Asian and my husband and the rest of his family are white. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: (1)I cut my own hair (2) I really haven't seen these relatives in a long time and my mother is very upset So after growing tired of styling her hair, the stepmom decided to have a hairstylist cut the child's hair. That was all I wanted was my daughter to be happy AITA for not cutting my hair to match my niece? My (26f) brother Mike (29) recently moved near me because of work. Cutting you and your daughter's hair isn't going to solve the problem since lice feed on To try and make peace I spoke to each of my for a 1-on-1 and as a group to figure out what to do next. 270(2)(b). Both my husband and I are not religious ( him Irish Catholic, me Hindu) and I only celebrate more secular aspects of both our culture. I ended up having the back of my head buzzed down and the rest of my hair cut super short to The thing that made me not as afraid: I cut my own hair. The kid's upset too and no matter how much I reassure her she still thinks she's in trouble for getting her hair cut. Just as a quick piece of context, my kids’ father and I are separated, but have agreed that their hair/appearance is theirs to do what they want with and we don’t have to double check with each other before giving permission. It is MY job to manage my reactions. Now she’s thinking of getting our daughters hair cut so her hair can “heal from the damages” but I still think she’s overreacting. Every bath ended in many, many tears on her part. Aita for brushing my daughter’s friend’s extremely matted hair out so she avoid a drastic cut? #askreddit #reddit #storytime #redditposts #redditaita Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I clean the hair out of the drain and she cleans the toilet. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: A choice I made prevented my ex husband from seeing our daughter walk at graduation despite him paying money for an expensive school. The stylist braided her hair then So naturally, she came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit. I do this maybe once every two/three months. Another lie. I offered to tie my hair or put it in a bun but she said that won't do. It’s hair and it can be cut off later if change mind just like it can be grown back if cut short. She would go through my hair everyday while we had it for 1-2 hrs and pick out the little eggs until it was gone, usually for 2 weeks at a time. The day after I got it cut, my mom woke me up and started crying to me about my hair. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be an asshole for taking my teenage daughter to the hairdresser's without discussing it with my former wife and allowing my daughter to have her hair cut AITA if I refuse to cut my hair? Edit: I am 5'7 while Alice is 5'6 so I kinda understand why she wants me to wear flats. She started talking about haircuts and how Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. A like my own daughters has long hair, so cutting the matted hair out would have meant her losing well over half of the length of her hair. Apparently the mistress created a fake profile account and manipulated my daughter into befriending her. I have been stunned how invested in the length of my daughter's hair family and even strangers are. No matter how many times I say that it’s MY hair, she gets mad and says she makes my decisions for me since i’m her child. ly/44aBReTDusty Thunder narrates stories from Reddit, follower submissions, and other sources a I (23f) have long golden hair that is down to my mid thigh. I, (25f), cut my bf (26m) daughter’s (6f) hair. AITA for cutting my sister’s hair? Everyone Sucks I (18f) cut off a lot of my sister’s (19f) hair Friday night as she had beautiful long brunette hair, but now, she has a Bob. I still ping pong between long hair and pixies myself. You completely destroyed your daughters self Posted by u/[Deleted Account] - 50 votes and 77 comments Now my mom says she's tired of seeing my hair everywhere and cleaning it, so she's telling me we'll be going to the hairdresser next weekend to cut my hair. This is a dad who has been a dad for eight years at least and had never taken the time Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. That was about 4 years ago and I'm just now starting to grow my hair back out. Secondly, as someone whose mom said my curly hair was pretty, but constantly told me "go do something with your hair" if I ever wore it down, you're not handling this situation in a way that's going to help your daughter's self esteem at all. From the early stages of pregnancy to when your teenagers are finally ready to leave the nest (even if they don't want to) we're here to help you through this crazy thing called parenting. Plucks sticking out on top. however, My fiancee got involved in my daughter's (14) preparation for the wedding and even paid for things my daughter needed. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I cut my sisters hair at home despite not being a trained professional, and during a distracted moment I cut a hole into it. (Thick knotty curly hair—took an hour or two then she’s get frustrated and cut knots out). She only said “ok” and didn’t talk to me anymore. It wasn’t until this year that I realized how beautiful my curls are. She wrote: "AITA for barring my MIL from seeing my daughter after she cut and straightened my . My wife and I see this and she says: "Hey, your hair looks a bit weird. I used googled, and you tube, and we've now found what works for If she did shave her daughters hair, it was probably under duress as other ppl mentioned. I didn’t ask if I should cut her hair because last time she got mad at me and said I should just do a better job at brushing her hair. I’m 5’4 and I’ve been growing it out for a really long time. I may be the asshole because I am ignoring my sisters need for consistency in a time where she is experiencing so much change already (the room split). Hotter days are around the corner. She cut her stepdaughter’s hair because she didn’t want to deal with it. It's hair, it'll grow back. Again I said nothing, this isn't my wedding. my daughter has a long hair, and my fiancee had suggested She went on a tirade how I was trying to 'un-black' my daughter. It used to be at my lower back, but now it’s to my shoulders. She no longer meets friends nor welcomes them at our home nor even meet family on person. she stays with me occasionally for a few days or a weekend at a time. There are literally so many other things to do besides what you did, you cannot possibly believe you didn’t have options. Do what she wants. 2. I finally took her to the salon where I get my hair done in the city. My hair was really long and she’s been bummed about it all day. My mom loathed it short but it's what I needed; my hair was a wreck and I could not handle long hair. I had hair down to my butt and I fought my mom on brushing it because it HURT so bad. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I had my husband pin down another human being and then I forcibly clipped her nails and that makes me an AH because . Anyways my MIL always hated my daughters hair and would make comments about how my daughters hair looked like a nest and suggested cutting it off. She’s constantly talking about how long it was and touching it. Their son would get hair cuts monthly to keep up with his maintenance of it. This is your daughter's hair and like you said Ahh I didn’t see the other comment. NTA. To be clear I’m not that upset that she cut her hair. 2) My girlfriend wants me to go clean cut. She said I don't love her natural hair and have consistently tried to make it like mine, which is frankly not true. Plus every night it is a struggle to untangle it or if we wash it to also dry it. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a woman asked if she was wrong for cutting off her MIL after she cut her daughter's hair. A lot more happened and trust me , I would have been on a airplane to beat me some me Ass. She stays at her mothers most weekends. I then straightened my hair for most of my teen years which caused huge damage, as an adult I finally learned to accept and love my curls how they are. Her bone structure and personality is perfectly suited to a cut like that and she loved it. Posted by u/Cute-Hovercraft9356 - No votes and 82 comments AITA for forcing my step daughter to cut her hair? This happened to my daughter to. It's your hair, your body, your choice. But, you're 19. I asked many family members who have curly hair for advice and most don't know how to maintain it. AITA for forcing my step daughter to cut her hair? I (31) met my husband (34m) 8 years ago, and we have been married for 6. the thing is, he constantly tells the girls when Actually according to Kentucky KRS 403. We enjoy braiding, curling and ornamenting our locks, as Sara has had short hair all her life and cannot style her daughter’s hair beyond a simple ponytail. The step mom cut her hair and did not tell me till after the fact. Exactly. It's about 2ft of hair. My daughter's Afro-Cuban hairdresser is the Today as she got brought back to us and noticed her hair was cut. Take her to get her hair cut. She’s been given a near 100% chance of survival since we caught it early, but the Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. She also mentioned I'll start bleaching her skin soon since it's common with 'my people'. It’s nearly to my knees now and AITA for cutting my daughters hair without discussion with my husband? My daughter 11 has a long standing hate of her very thick heavy curly hair. To be fair none of us got our hair shaved as a kid as well and my mom only got us a short hair cut. When we got to the salon, the hairdresser was reluctant to cut her hair due to her tears but I explained the trouble we have maintaining it, and assured cutting it would be best for her. My theory is as long as it is clean shouldn’t care what someone does with their hair. My MIL, Connie had recently taken Vihana over for the weekend at her and my FIL, Tom (65m)'s house. You're doing your son a huge favor. We are almost done with the wedding planning and everything is going great. His daughter’s hair was all the way down to her bottom. And her father is very dark with very curly hair. Her hairdresser had purple hair and she thought it was really cool. She kept trying to tell me how punk it was. I ended up with my hair cut bluntly across the back of me head and it ended well above the top of my ears. When it was done, my daughter burst into tears, and the owner looked terrified, but then my daughter shouted that her hair was so pretty! I got a hair cut two days ago. Besides, I don’t want my daughters hair to be cut. AITA? MIL cut my 15 month old daughters’ (already super short hair) for the first time Toddler 1-3 Years Title says it all. My daughter wanted to make a prank video and she cut a good sized portion of the wig. One of the activities Eve and I enjoy is styling our hair. I let her keep the bar piercing in her ear as long as she covers it with her hair while at church. be/q8CC7ICVy0QSarah reads a Reddit Story where OP asks if they're TA for cutting their step-daughter's extremely YTA- as someone who has naturally super curly Afro like hair I struggled with self esteem issues when I was little because most people in my school had straight or wavy hair. I recently cut my hair really short today i was thinning my daughter's hair ahead of the summer heat. Now? Does she not look cute naturally? My mother often comments on my wife’s and daughters hair and I agree with my mother. They asked the sub: “AITA for making my daughter cut her own hair I (f17) cut my hair. My wife got furious and started telling me about how I ruined daughter's image. I had waist long golden blonde hair at 14, and I was friends with this one girl who would often tell me how damaged and frizzy it was and how it would look so much nicer if i She asked why I allowed daughter to cut all her hair off. I can’t stop crying. I know my younger sister wanted to copy me a lot when she was younger (eg 10/11) but she's 17 now and wouldn't dream of it. But I just told them it’s her hair. When my sister (f16) found out she was scared that I’d be in huge trouble and that she’d somehow be in trouble along with me. AITA for brushing out Anya’s hair so she avoided getting a drastic cut. . HUGE matted nest. When they were told her punishment may have been too harsh, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if they had done the right thing. OOP is voted NTA. ” I had a 2 inch trim about 10 years later. all of my girls have very thick hair and i thin it to make it more manageable for them, but do it more for the summer as it helps them keep cooler. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I didn't ask my ex-wife before letting my daughter get her hair cut. Me 39M, and my fiancee 35F got engaged few months ago. Judgement_Bot_AITA • Happened to my daughter's hair from just one day in a pool. My mom had the mundan done for my biracial daughter but we didn’t shave my daughter’s hair. I asked if she wanted to get her hair dyed as she seemed interested. Okay so for context. It took nice expensive hair products, good maintenance, and a wet brush. I’m a mother of 5, but the only 2 kids relevant in this are my 13-year-old daughter, Kelsey, and my 4-year-old daughter, Colleen. Then she told me that we had to cut my daughters hair into a short bob. Tia and I visited our regular salon last month to get her hair cut. oir hrbi egx hpbjwz fpt juwp jfgnh pxygs dbl wwxqop